Notes of interest

From my current book... "Toxic In-Laws"

"Because self-centered people are so dependent on outside admiration and approval, most of them are consumed with how they look to others."


"Sometimes toxic in-laws' self-centeredness can come perilously close to paranoia. Because everything is about them, they often accuse you of deliberately upsetting them."


"Some people are so emotionally constricted and so heavily defended, they simply dont have the capacity to walk a block, let alone a mile in someone else's Nikes. Recognizing and understanding these limitations with both you heart and your head will go a long way toward helping you resolve the question, 'How can they treat me this way?'
One of the answers is: They treat you this way because they are either oblivious or indifferent to how much pain they are causing. They cannot feel what you are feeling, and they have a gaping hole inside, where their empathy should be. As a result, they are free to cause suffering without the constraints of such minor inconveniences as guilt or remorse--feelings that would not allow them to go so far without suffering themselves."


This book is GREAT!!! I no longer ask myself..."what did I do wrong?" OR "What is wrong with me?"... I ask... "What is wrong with them, that they dont see me for the good person that I am?" OR "What is wrong with them, that they dont see how much I love my husband and how happy I make him?" !!!!

I am just about half way through the book!! And already have learned so much!!!
Stacy and I are also scheduled to start couples counseling to help us learn to deal with the insanity!! It really does cause a lot of issues between us... because neither one of us knows what to do!
I am so excited!!! MORE PERSONAL GROWTH!!!

2012 is going to be an awesome year!!! :-)